And yes, I realize that nothing I can say will make people not want to see it.
It cost $40 million to make and made $94.4 million domestically in its opening weekend-I'm not a Hollywood power player, but even I can see that's a good ROI. This movie is in poor taste, but it's already broken box-office records. Which just bashes the BDSM community in addition to reifying stereotypes. In other words, why all the BDSM stuff? His response: "Because I'm fifty shades of f*cked up." Thus, the pivotal explanation in the movie is that if you engage in BDSM it's because you're damaged or psychopathic, not because you're in a loving relationship that involves exploration of that type of activity.
Why we're romanticizing this dynamic in the movie is beyond me.įinally, we reach the end of the film and Anastasia just wants to know why they can't settle down and have a rich, handsome family together. Don't you like me enough to just screw?" and the woman gives in and the situation is, in a word, shitty. The woman says she wants to get serious and the guy is like, "Hey, we're hooking up and having fun. This is, incidentally, a dialogue I see playing out all across the country with almost-couples in their 20s. If you want to be with me then you need get me off." In the real version, the roles are flipped, and the effect is a little more squirmy-it feels arrogant on his part, and the fact that she shrugs and leans into the whole thing "just because" is frankly a little bit repulsive. Here's one version where it's Christian who's invited into the BDSM world:Įmpowering, right? A strong woman who knows what she wants sexually saying, "Look dude. Let me demonstrate a crucial scene that shows how this could have been a feminist movie but isn't. Except for one thing: He gets off on causing you pain, and you're not necessarily into that. You can never go back to what your life was because he's shown you a rich and fancy new lifestyle and claims to be devoted to you. This is a stalker and you should probably call the police.īut in this movie, the controlling stalker is rich and handsome so…it's okay I guess? It's like he's some adult version of Disney's archetypal Prince Charming-he shows up and whisks you away, riding off into the sunset together, so your life is new and exciting. And I would venture to say that if a man has half a coffee date with you and then starts showing up uninvited to bars where you're out with friends and making you go home with him, if he sends you lavish gifts and tells you what to do with them, if he can't even let you go visit your mom without showing up (once again, uninvited), this is not a good boyfriend. And he does whatever he wants with you whenever he wants, because he basically owns you. He wants to control every aspect of who you are, including what you eat and how much you drink. The rich, handsome man who cancels meetings for a woman he just met, buys expensive gifts (spoiler alert: it's a car), and plans elaborate dates all while secretly having a big heart with a passion to eradicate world hunger. The fact that Ana is one-dimensional isn't that horrific.
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